It was following an interaction with a stranger on an elevator my second year on testosterone. We rode up 26 floors in silence. As I was exiting the elevator he said take it easy, brother. It struck me in that moment that I was for all intents and purposes just a dude which felt exceedingly validating.
Reading memoirs written by trans men. Two examples are: Becoming a Visible Man by Jamison Green and The Testosterone Files by Max Wolf Valerio.